You’re Not Unmotivated. You’re Emotionally Exhausted: Why Trauma Makes It Hard to Focus or Finish
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You’re Not Unmotivated. You’re Emotionally Exhausted: Why Trauma Makes It Hard to Focus or Finish

Struggling to focus, start tasks, or follow through is not laziness. It is often emotional exhaustion rooted in unresolved trauma or chronic stress. When your nervous system is in survival mode, even simple responsibilities can feel overwhelming.

This blog explains how stress responses like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn can disrupt focus, fuel shame, and create a sense of being stuck. You will also learn trauma-informed strategies to restore clarity, rebuild energy, and reclaim your sense of control.

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Why You Can’t Focus or Relax: How Your Nervous System Reacts to Doing It All
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Why You Can’t Focus or Relax: How Your Nervous System Reacts to Doing It All

"Even the strongest feel the strain." You have been pushing through, showing up for everyone, holding it all together. But deep down, you feel the tension between your willpower and your well-being. You carry responsibilities like armor, but underneath, your nervous system is speaking in tremors.

As a trauma, grief, and anxiety therapist specializing in women’s mental health, I create space for you to breathe, rest, and remember you do not have to do it all alone.

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Why Your Body Feels So Loud This Summer (And What It’s Trying to Tell You)
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Why Your Body Feels So Loud This Summer (And What It’s Trying to Tell You)

When summer hits, your nervous system might feel louder than ever—buzzing skin, racing thoughts, overstimulation, and pressure to “show up” when all you want is to breathe. If you're navigating trauma, anxiety, perfectionism, grief, or body image struggles, this season can magnify it all. In this post, we unpack why your body feels so loud, how your nervous system responds to past pain, and what it actually needs to feel safe—not just seen.

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Why Summer Feels So Damn Hard When You’re Healing
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Why Summer Feels So Damn Hard When You’re Healing

Summer doesn’t feel soft when you’re carrying trauma—it feels loud, exposing, and relentless.
When you’re managing anxiety, grief, body shame, or perfectionism, even a beach invite can spike your nervous system. Swimsuits feel like exposure. Social plans feel like pressure. The heat? The noise? The expectations? It’s all too much.

This isn’t about confidence. It’s about survival.
And your body is doing exactly what it was wired to do: protect you.

If you're a high-achieving woman feeling overstimulated, disconnected, or emotionally drained this season—this is for you.

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Boundaries & Self-Compassion: The Antidote to Trauma-Led People‑Pleasing
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Boundaries & Self-Compassion: The Antidote to Trauma-Led People‑Pleasing

You give and give—until there’s nothing left for you. Behind the smiles, your nervous system is flooded with anxiety, your body carries grief, and your heart is tired from trauma that taught you to over-function. People-pleasing isn’t who you are—it’s how you survived. This blog will show you how boundaries and self-compassion can begin to heal what hyper-independence has been hiding.

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Triggers and Trauma Responses: How Childhood Wounds Shape the Way You Love
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Triggers and Trauma Responses: How Childhood Wounds Shape the Way You Love

When anxiety tightens your chest, grief lingers beneath the surface, and trauma responses hijack your relationships—you might wonder, “What’s wrong with me?” The truth? Nothing. These are echoes of childhood wounds you were never taught to heal. In this post, we unpack how trauma and attachment styles silently shape the way high-achieving women love—and how you can finally feel safe, seen, and enough.

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The Father Wound: Healing Emotional Abandonment and Reclaiming Your Worth
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The Father Wound: Healing Emotional Abandonment and Reclaiming Your Worth

If your father was absent or emotionally unavailable, you might be stuck in cycles of anxiety, grief, and trauma—always feeling like you’re not enough. This blog shows high-achieving women how father wounds shape your self-worth and relationships—and how to finally heal. With insights from bell hooks’ All About Love and therapist-guided journal prompts, you’ll learn to break free from the pain and reclaim the love and worth you’ve always deserved.

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Breaking the Cycle Starts With You (Even When It Feels Unfair)
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Breaking the Cycle Starts With You (Even When It Feels Unfair)

If healing your relationship with your mother has brought up anxiety, guilt, or grief—you’re not imagining it.
This blog explores the emotional toll of being the cycle breaker: the one carrying trauma your family never named, and the anxiety that flares every time you stop performing peace.
We’ll unpack what it means to set boundaries, hold space for silent grief, and break generational patterns—without losing yourself in the process.

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You’re Not Cold, You’re Conditioned: How Emotionally Distant Mothers Shape Anxiety, Trauma & Silent Grief
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You’re Not Cold, You’re Conditioned: How Emotionally Distant Mothers Shape Anxiety, Trauma & Silent Grief

If you’re a high-achieving woman living with anxiety, carrying the invisible weight of trauma, or grieving the mother you never truly had—this post is for you. What looks like emotional distance is often the result of early conditioning: unspoken rules to stay small, stay strong, and never need too much. This blog helps you name the grief, soften the anxiety, and begin healing from the trauma your nervous system never had space to feel.

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When Mother’s Day Hurts: For Women Who Didn’t Have the Mom They Needed
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When Mother’s Day Hurts: For Women Who Didn’t Have the Mom They Needed

Mother’s Day isn’t easy when you’re grieving the mother you never had.
For high-achieving women living with unresolved trauma, complicated grief, or anxiety rooted in family dynamics, this day can feel like a quiet crisis. If you feel guilt for needing space, fear around being seen, or pain from a toxic or emotionally unavailable mother—this post is for you. Discover trauma-informed support, language for your pain, and permission to stop performing.

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“I Live In My Head”
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“I Live In My Head”

Living in your head isn’t just overthinking — it’s your nervous system’s response to unprocessed anxiety, trauma, and grief. If your mind won’t slow down and rest feels impossible, this blog will show you why you feel this way—and how healing can finally begin.

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The Silent Grief of Losing the Body You Once Had
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The Silent Grief of Losing the Body You Once Had

Many women silently carry grief for the body they once had—not just in shape, but in identity, safety, and wholeness. This post explores body grief after trauma, anxiety, motherhood, or burnout, and why feeling disconnected from yourself isn’t vanity—it’s a trauma response. If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thought, “I don’t feel like me anymore,” this is for you.

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When “Fine” Is Just Code for Survival
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When “Fine” Is Just Code for Survival

There’s a certain kind of woman who knows how to keep going, no matter what. She doesn’t fall apart—not publicly, not loudly. She gets up, gets it done, and holds it all together with practiced ease. Her presence is steady. Her smile is believable. Her to-do list never seems to end, and somehow, she keeps moving through it. But behind her ability to function is a quiet struggle—one shaped by years of high-functioning anxiety, unresolved trauma, and unprocessed grief. What looks like balance from the outside is often a performance rooted in emotional exhaustion and survival mode.

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