It Wasn’t Too Small to Hurt You
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It Wasn’t Too Small to Hurt You

For high-achieving women, the deepest wounds often come from what didn’t happen from love withheld, needs unmet, words unspoken. This guide explores how minimized pain still lives in the body, shaping anxiety, grief, and identity, and how trauma-informed therapy helps you reclaim healing.

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Why Birthdays Feel Heavy
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Why Birthdays Feel Heavy

Birthdays are supposed to feel joyful but many high-achieving women feel something heavier. This therapist-written post explores grief, pressure, and what your nervous system might be holding on your birthday.

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Preparing Your Nervous System for the Holidays
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Preparing Your Nervous System for the Holidays

The holidays aren’t just glitter and gatherings. For high-achieving women, they can bring emotional landmines, trauma memories, and invisible burnout. This guide helps you honor your nervous system, reclaim rest, and move through the season without pretending you're fine.

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Imposter Syndrome in Healing: Why You Feel Like You Are Failing Even When You Are Growing
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Imposter Syndrome in Healing: Why You Feel Like You Are Failing Even When You Are Growing

Imposter syndrome in healing often sounds like “I should be further along by now.” For high-achieving women navigating trauma, grief, and anxiety, progress can feel invisible or inadequate especially when healing doesn’t follow a straight line. This blog explores why you may feel like you’re failing even while you’re growing, and offers trauma-informed affirmations, journal prompts, and nervous system-friendly practices to help you track your progress with compassion instead of shame.

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Fawning 101: When Saying Yes Feels Safer Than Saying No
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Fawning 101: When Saying Yes Feels Safer Than Saying No

Fawning isn’t kindness, it’s a trauma response rooted in survival. Saying yes when you mean no, over-apologizing, or silencing your needs isn’t weakness. These are protective strategies your nervous system learned to keep you safe in unsafe environments and they deserve compassion, not shame.

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You’re Not Unmotivated. You’re Emotionally Exhausted: Why Trauma Makes It Hard to Focus or Finish
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You’re Not Unmotivated. You’re Emotionally Exhausted: Why Trauma Makes It Hard to Focus or Finish

Struggling to focus, start tasks, or follow through is not laziness. It is often emotional exhaustion rooted in unresolved trauma or chronic stress. When your nervous system is in survival mode, even simple responsibilities can feel overwhelming.

This blog explains how stress responses like fight, flight, freeze, and fawn can disrupt focus, fuel shame, and create a sense of being stuck. You will also learn trauma-informed strategies to restore clarity, rebuild energy, and reclaim your sense of control.

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